You might think you know what you want. Often times clients true desires are hidden under repeated hurts or struggles that occurred during their marriage. Clients who have used this resource repeatedly share that it revealed information they did not recognize as so important. It helped them better align their decision-making with the values they hold most dear. It also helps both spouses better understand how decisions have been made historically and what changes might need to occur for decisions in this process.

Couples who have been married for some time may not realize how many compromises they made including in those values that guide their decisions. As you untangle it is important to determine what values each of you holds dear so you can make decisions based on that and not the joint values on which each of you likely compromised during the marriage. That individual clarity creates agreements that are much more durable.