Listen to the Interview Here I listened to this interview about collaborative divorce and alcohol use. The interview is helpful. However, collaborative divorce is beneficial to families with many different challenges, not just alcohol use. As a San Jose collaborative divorce attorney, (Certified by the California State Board of Legal Specialization as a Family Law Specialist) I work with other … [Read more...] about Collaborative Practice in Family Law when Alcohol Use is Involved: Audio Interview
Recently, I heard Tara Brach interview Krista Tippett about compassion. So many gems in that interview paralleled my work as an Insight Mediator in San Jose California. In the interview, Krista talked about the larger divide in our country as she described anger as the public face of fear. Anger, masking fear, is constantly featured in the stories my family law clients tell. Krista Tippet … [Read more...] about Lessons Learned From Divorce: Curiosity Is Neither Capitulation Nor Compromise
When preparing for a divorce spouses can say things that make it seem like the sky is falling. All spouses experience some level of fear and uncertainty in divorce. Although those feelings might drive people to make some scary claims, they are usually just exaggerated and incorrect. I call these claims: ‘Fake News: The Divorce Edition.’ As a San Jose Divorce Lawyer for 18 … [Read more...] about Preparing For Divorce: Don’t Fall Prey To Fake News
Yes, you most certainly can. While it is neither common nor easy for couples to complete their California divorce in a way they can proudly recount, it is absolutely possible. In the 18 years I have worked as a San Jose divorce attorney I have seen plenty of ‘not-my-best-moment’ behaviors with couples treating one another as sworn enemies. It is normal to struggle through divorce -- … [Read more...] about Can You Be Proud Of Your Divorce?
Going through the divorce process via a virtual video platform such as Zoom works surprisingly well. A divorce by video conference allows us to address issues related to the divorce in real-time, which is particularly important in expediting the entire process. Many of our clients are surprised to discover that most of the work we do as lawyers to prepare a case for divorce can be done through … [Read more...] about How Does Divorce by Zoom Work?
We’re approaching 3 weeks into an unprecedented era. Younger children probably don’t understand, and older children may be resistant to the new restrictions. Parents may be dealing with sudden unemployment, trying to concentrate while working at home, and taking care of children at the same time. Custody and parenting issues in divorced and blended families are now exacerbated. Life feels like … [Read more...] about Co-Parenting during COVID-19
Covid-19 is changing many things in our world. As an attorney doing collaborative and mediated divorces, my business has changed because I now help families navigate their conflict on a computer screen. Although I expected computer mediations to have more problems than benefits, I was pleasantly surprised. Mediated divorces are usually court-free and cost-effective divorces. The surprising … [Read more...] about Cozy Mediation?
A child-centered divorce means both parents commit to shield their child from both the conflict and process of divorce. Children are much more aware of the tension, conflict, and details of divorce than we ever realize. Studies show children shielded from conflict have much better outcomes long term. That’s why both parents must make a conscious, concerted, and proactive effort to protect their … [Read more...] about Five Ways to Make Your Divorce Child-Centered